The more caring the professor, in my experience, the more likely it is that he will try to fuck you.<\/p>\n
Those who mentor the under-privileged and disadvantaged, like Jerry Sandusky, are the most likely to try to take advantage of their position.<\/p>\n
If you are an attractive young woman undergoing an Orthodox conversion in Los Angeles, the odds are about 50% your Av Beit din will try to fuck you<\/a>.<\/p>\n They don’t pick on anyone, however. They prey on the vulnerable. For the formidable, they only show their best selves. <\/p>\n If someone with power over you tries to fuck you, that likely reflects not just their moral weakness but your weakness too. I bet that you put out a signal that you are fuckable. <\/p>\n I know too many women who repeatedly get raped by mentors. I know too many women who tell me about being repeatedly raped by men they knew. They’re surprised when they get into bed naked with a guy and he takes advantage. Other women I know would never put themselves in that position. <\/p>\n If your shul’s Orthodox rabbi operates behind a locked office door, beware.<\/p>\n If the rabbi who arranges for scholars in residence for your shul tends to choose the most attractive, beware. <\/p>\n I knew musicologist Robert Murell Stevenson<\/a> at UCLA in 1988-89. We had a lot of meals together at Rieber Hall along with his friend Jules Zentner<\/a> (another groomer as well as an expert in Scandinavian Literature).<\/p>\n Professor Stevenson, a bachelor, had just retired from teaching but he was quite the mentor. He took a particular interest in our African-American athletes from under-privileged backgrounds and would pimp them out to the Hollywood Gay Mafia. They could earn thousands of dollars meeting the needs of the most powerful men in Los Angeles. <\/p>\n Professor Stevenson did not have a high estimation of the cognitive abilities of these scholar-athletes but he recognized that different peoples have different gifts.<\/p>\n I suspect the sex work he arranged was similar in style to his musical compositions, “marked by kinetic energy and set in vigorous and often acrid dissonant counterpoint.”<\/p>\n Professor Stevenson was a complicated guy. He didn’t hold by affirmative action but he accepted the world as it was. We’d talk about Martin Luther King’s plagiarized PhD thesis.<\/p>\n The professor did not suffer fools. When I said something stupid, he’d say that was stupid. When UCLA did stupid things, the professor would say they were stupid. <\/p>\n He didn’t have much of a filter. <\/p>\n Professor Stevenson was a descendent of the novelist Robert Louis Stevenson. <\/p>\n Apparently, there wasn’t much of a financial demand for getting these scholar-athletes into heterosexual work.<\/p>\n I’m not sure if the professor ever availed himself of their services.<\/p>\n When my father saw a professor investing in me without obvious benefit, such as Jules Zenter, he read correctly that the prof would try to fuck me. I had to learn that hard lesson. <\/p>\n No other mentor tried to fuck me. <\/p>\n Look for the pattern. Outsized kindness. Then friendship. Then a sexual advance once trust deepens. Textbook escalation. Not exotic. Not rare.<\/p>\n An adult man with status uses mentorship to position himself for sexual access to a younger person who depends on him. The pattern shares structural features with Sandusky: asymmetrical access, helping as camouflage, dependency as leverage. <\/p>\n What sits in the public record across major university programs includes Colorado’s hostess scandal, Nevin Shapiro at Miami providing escorts and access to players, and longstanding patronage arrangements between wealthy Los Angeles figures and athletes before NIL legalized direct compensation. UCLA sat at the crossroads of celebrity, money, and athletic prestige. <\/p>\n Institutions underestimate the risk posed by charismatic helpers. Public reputation for goodness functions as cover. Dependency keeps targets quiet. Colleagues prefer not to look. Mentorship plus dependency plus institutional reluctance to investigate produces predictable predation, and the most nurturing figures often draw the least scrutiny because their public goodness shields them.<\/p>\n How many such men operate at any given university at any given time? I’d estimate one or two per department, often known informally to colleagues, rarely reported, almost never punished.<\/p>\n When I was at Sierra Community College, the most charismatic teachers enjoyed the most sexual access to the most beautiful women. The teachers described it as studying social norms. Several women I knew did not enjoy this attention and the cruelty that resulted from them saying no. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The more caring the professor, in my experience, the more likely it is that he will try to fuck you. Those who mentor the under-privileged and disadvantaged, like Jerry Sandusky, are the most likely to try to take advantage of … Continue reading