{"id":17769,"date":"2010-03-23T15:45:01","date_gmt":"2010-03-23T23:45:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=17769"},"modified":"2010-03-23T15:45:01","modified_gmt":"2010-03-23T23:45:01","slug":"self-defeating-behavior","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=17769","title":{"rendered":"Self-Defeating Behavior"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><A HREF=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2010\/03\/23\/health\/23mind.html?ref=health\">Psychiatrist Richard A. Friedman writes in the New York Times<\/a>:<\/p>\n<p>So what explains those men and women who repeatedly pursue a path that leads to pain and disappointment? Perhaps there is a hidden psychological reward.<\/p>\n<p>I got a glimpse of it once from another patient, a woman in her early 60s who complained about her ungrateful children and neglectful friends. As she spoke, it was clear she felt that all the major figures in her life had done her wrong. 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