{"id":1631,"date":"2007-12-03T21:15:22","date_gmt":"2007-12-04T04:03:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=1631"},"modified":"2007-12-04T19:24:39","modified_gmt":"2007-12-05T02:12:39","slug":"curse-of-the-reality-show-romance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=1631","title":{"rendered":"Curse of the Reality Show Romance"},"content":{"rendered":"

David Foxley writes<\/a>:<\/p>\n

We were starting to get the feeling that something was missing from The Daily Transom. And then it hit us, hard—like Britney Spears<\/strong>’ umbrella on K-Fed<\/strong>’s car. It’s been over two weeks since we last checked in<\/a> with our celebrity life coach, Patrick Wanis<\/strong>, PhD. This time, we talked about what he called “the curse of the reality show.”<\/p>\n

Mr. Wanis said it’s as simple as looking at all the celebrity couples whose relationships hit the skids during or shortly after wrapping their series: Jessica Simpson <\/strong>and Nick Lachey <\/strong>(Newlyweds<\/em>); Carmen Electra <\/strong>and Dave Navarro<\/strong> (‘Til Death Do Us Part<\/em>); Britney Spears <\/strong>and Kevin Federline <\/strong>(Chaotic<\/em>); Travis Barker <\/strong>and Shanna Moakler<\/strong> (Meet the Barkers<\/em>); Danny Bonaduce <\/strong>and Gretchen Bonaduce <\/strong>(Breaking Bonaduce<\/em>); and Kathy Griffin <\/strong>and Matt Moline<\/strong> (My Life on the D-List<\/em>). “And let’s not forget—although we might want to—Liza Minnelli <\/strong>and David Gest<\/strong>,” said Mr. Wanis. The cringe-worthy pair couldn’t even finish taping the first season of their VH1 show before divorcing.<\/p>\n

…In a document Mr. Wanis released exclusively to The Daily Transom, he details the reasons why, in his view, reality TV is relationship poison:<\/p>\n

Being in front of TV cameras for great lengths of time triggers two automatic behavioral responses:<\/p>\n

1. The subconscious desire to please others and gain their approval will lead us to play the role and say the type of things that we believe others expect of us.<\/p>\n

2. “Emotional nakedness” whereby our critical defenses are lowered and we blurt out and act the truth -what we truly think and feel from our subconscious mind – the things we would usually hide, contain or try to control.<\/p>\n

Further, there is the additional emotional strain of being followed around continuously by TV cameras which robs the reality star of much of his\/her freedom and private thoughts. Privacy and personal time for reflection are important components of mental and emotional health. Also, being on camera many hours a day is equivalent to working long hours at a job, leading to physical and mental strain. And the camera also becomes like a person invading your personal space and judging your every thought, action and response with little or no time for a true rest and break. This can lead to frustration, irritability, arguments, defensiveness and anger. Additionally, the exposure, publicity and fame can result in delusion, a loss of sense of one’s real self and a transformation of one’s values. In other words, the TV cameras intensify and exaggerate the best and worst of each reality star.<\/p>\n

In the case of a married couple, the TV cameras and reality show will also rob the couple of the critical personal, private time for intimacy – emotional intimacy.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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