{"id":162384,"date":"2025-07-25T17:24:06","date_gmt":"2025-07-26T01:24:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=162384"},"modified":"2025-07-25T17:24:06","modified_gmt":"2025-07-26T01:24:06","slug":"sex-is-about-power-the-fantasy-of-most-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=162384","title":{"rendered":"Sex is about power: the fantasy of most men"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/DWW_2k3lrcc?si=-2AA1Ue8fHQKd-O_\" title=\"YouTube video player\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>I think he&#8217;s right. Sex often operates as a proxy for power. That fits with evolutionary psychology, Freud\u2019s theories of sublimation, and real-world dynamics in dating and porn consumption. The observations about porn not necessarily reflecting a desire to act out violence, but instead a wish-fulfillment fantasy of power, also rings true\u2014especially given the lack of correlation between extreme porn and actual increases in violent behavior.<\/p>\n<p>The flip side\u2014powerful men fantasizing about being powerless\u2014is equally telling. It supports the idea that sexual fantasy often compensates for what someone lacks in real life. The part about royalty sneaking out in peasant clothes nails that paradox: we crave the experience we\u2019re denied, whether that\u2019s control or surrender.<\/p>\n<p>The transgressive themes in porn aren\u2019t just shock for its own sake\u2014they&#8217;re symbolic expressions of deeper psychological imbalances around power. And the fact that the average man\u2019s reality is so different from those fantasies\u2014expensive, difficult, hoops to jump through\u2014gives context for why the porn industry looks the way it does. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I think he&#8217;s right. Sex often operates as a proxy for power. That fits with evolutionary psychology, Freud\u2019s theories of sublimation, and real-world dynamics in dating and porn consumption. The observations about porn not necessarily reflecting a desire to act &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=162384\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[28],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-162384","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-sex"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/162384","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=162384"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/162384\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":162385,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/162384\/revisions\/162385"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=162384"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=162384"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=162384"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}