{"id":157400,"date":"2024-09-15T03:45:34","date_gmt":"2024-09-15T11:45:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=157400"},"modified":"2024-09-15T03:47:23","modified_gmt":"2024-09-15T11:47:23","slug":"how-to-make-the-most-of-your-20s","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=157400","title":{"rendered":"How to Make the Most of Your 20s"},"content":{"rendered":"

Catherine Shannon wrote<\/a>: <\/p>\n

…when dating, there\u2019s a subtle way to communicate to men that their best behavior is necessary with you. And it\u2019s certainly not overtly stating, \u201cI am a high-value woman.\u201d It\u2019s a combination of social grace, elegance, and discretion. There\u2019s an ideal attitude, and it\u2019s hard to define, but it encompasses kindness, intelligence, good will, a sense of humor, sensitive understanding, and self-respect. Women with this attitude turn heads in every room they enter. People really do treat you the way you treat yourself, and the people who sense that they won\u2019t be able to easily manipulate you will run the other way. This is a good thing.<\/p>\n

Generally speaking, do the harder, less fashionable thing.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying you need to be a contrarian (though that\u2019s arguably fashionable these days). What I mean is that the harder, more thorough, less popular path is usually worth it. There are basically no shortcuts in life, and you\u2019ll only waste your time and energy looking for them.<\/p>\n

Work on your manners and social graces.<\/p>\n

When someone has excellent manners, people don\u2019t actually notice the manners, they notice the person. Some manners are obvious\u2014saying please, thank you, and excuse me, covering your mouth while you cough, not chewing with your mouth open, respecting others\u2019 personal space. But exceptional manners are harder to define, and the shading of behavior is subtle. For instance, the lost art of conversation. <\/p>\n

…Try not to engage in purely attention-seeking, ultimately embarrassing behavior. And don\u2019t divulge every aspect of your personal life on social media. Strangers who don\u2019t know you are incapable of actually caring about you. If you need help, reach out to the people who know you in real life. Remember: discretion is extremely attractive. It is seldom wise to tell all.<\/p>\n

Take great care with your living space.<\/p>\n

Your surroundings certainly elevate your mood, but you don\u2019t have to have a huge apartment and a ton of money to create a beautiful home.<\/p>\n

…Reading is the main way to expand your mind as an adult. Media consumption simply does not cut it. If you want to separate yourself intellectually from your peers, develop serious interests and passions, feel calmer and more collected, have deeper, more interesting conversations, and rarely feel bored\u2014you have to read.<\/p>\n

…Meaningful work looks different to everyone, and it\u2019s worth trying to figure out what you personally find meaningful.<\/p>\n

…Your day job can also fuel your creative pursuits, especially if you\u2019re a writer. No one talks about this enough. You need to meet some characters and have some real life experiences. Too much writing these days is \u201cwriters writing about being writers.\u201d In order to write, you need to have lived.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Catherine Shannon wrote: …when dating, there\u2019s a subtle way to communicate to men that their best behavior is necessary with you. And it\u2019s certainly not overtly stating, \u201cI am a high-value woman.\u201d It\u2019s a combination of social grace, elegance, and … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[42922],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-157400","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-guru"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t