{"id":15441,"date":"2009-12-30T20:00:19","date_gmt":"2009-12-31T04:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=15441"},"modified":"2009-12-30T20:00:19","modified_gmt":"2009-12-31T04:00:19","slug":"orit-arfa-fully-transcribed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=15441","title":{"rendered":"Orit Arfa – Fully Transcribed"},"content":{"rendered":"

You can now read the whole interview (or at least the parts I wanted to transcribe<\/a>).<\/p>\n

Here’s a taste:<\/p>\n

Luke: “What is it like getting critiqued?”<\/p>\n

Orit: “If I can’t handle getting critiqued, I should not be an artist.”<\/p>\n

“Women — and what I teach a lot in my book — women, yes, want to be recognized for their greatness and their beauty, but even more so, they want to be comforted and they want to know that a man will handle them and love them when they are difficult, neurotic, insecure, bitchy, irrational. Sometimes I don’t look for a guy who’s going to love me all the time, love me because I’m a great writer or pretty or whatever it is I am, I want a guy who will love me through my insecurities and bolster me during those times of self-doubt and make me feel good about myself as a woman all around. Sometimes attractive and intelligent women are the ones who are most insecure because they are always on a pedestal, they are always worshiped. It’s a lot of pressure. A guy who can make her laugh and comfort her when she’s not at her best, that can make her feel very safe with a man.”<\/p>\n

Luke: “How did you and why did you transition from primarily sharing in your singles columns to teaching?”<\/p>\n

Orit: “If more men knew these techniques on how to date women, there’d be fewer singles. My singles column will be obsolete when I meet the man who can be manschly enough for me. One reason is that the Jewish Journal discontinued the column. It was nice to have a break and like keep my private life to myself.<\/p>\n

“Teaching, I don’t have to reveal so much about myself, but I can still discuss these issues. I know my girlfriends are very thankful to me.”<\/p>\n

Luke: “Why?”<\/p>\n

Orit: “For bringing these matters to light.”<\/p>\n

“A lot of the time men don’t know and they are scared… If the mind of a woman can be demystified a little bit, men can feel better about themselves and date and be in relationships, which is more of a priority now than it was for me in my 20s.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You can now read the whole interview (or at least the parts I wanted to transcribe). Here’s a taste: Luke: “What is it like getting critiqued?” Orit: “If I can’t handle getting critiqued, I should not be an artist.” “Women … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[215],"tags":[20780,15647,20781,29787,20779,20782],"class_list":["post-15441","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-orit-arfa","tag-book-women","tag-insecurities","tag-intelligent-women","tag-jewish-journal","tag-self-doubt","tag-time-men"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15441","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=15441"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15441\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15442,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15441\/revisions\/15442"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=15441"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=15441"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=15441"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}