{"id":13995,"date":"2009-12-09T12:20:03","date_gmt":"2009-12-09T20:20:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=13995"},"modified":"2009-12-10T08:44:18","modified_gmt":"2009-12-10T16:44:18","slug":"fighting-with-your-betters","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=13995","title":{"rendered":"Fighting With Your Betters"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I often have conflicts with people who are my superiors. They&#8217;re not just more successful in life (they&#8217;re married with children) than me, they&#8217;re finer. Kinder. More mentchy. More moral. More Jewish. More knowledgeable of Torah.<\/p>\n<p>It leaves me with a very sick feeling, an insecure feeling, the opposite of feeling you are on the right path.<\/p>\n<p>What shores me up is that I have a clear hierarchy of values. I&#8217;m about my writing. I&#8217;m committed to Judaism but I&#8217;ve chosen not to have a rav. 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