{"id":138180,"date":"2021-04-02T08:19:49","date_gmt":"2021-04-02T16:19:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=138180"},"modified":"2021-04-02T08:19:49","modified_gmt":"2021-04-02T16:19:49","slug":"in-a-relationship-being-responsible-doesnt-always-promote-attraction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=138180","title":{"rendered":"In a relationship, being responsible doesn’t always promote attraction"},"content":{"rendered":"

From Reddit<\/a>:<\/p>\n

I got divorced in the middle of last year, and about five months later I met my current girlfriend.<\/p>\n

She’s Russian. And while she’s supportive and kind when I display true vulnerability, she also isn’t very tolerant of displayed weakness: complaining without action, not being proactive in planning activities, lack of independent thoughts or opinions, not following through with promises.<\/p>\n

Those who have dated Russian or Eastern European women can likely attest to this.<\/p>\n

Dominant, beautiful, and feminine women require men who are in their masculine center. A good woman will accept you for who you are fundamentally, and give you space to have your moments of weakness; however, if weakness becomes the baseline behavior, the attraction begins to erode.<\/p>\n

Nice Guys will complain that this is arrogance or superficiality on the part of the woman, but it’s just the nature of polarity between masculine and feminine energies.<\/p>\n

When I met her, I was in solid shape. I was attending kickboxing classes regularly. I was dating other women casually. My divorce allowed me to have time and space to focus on myself instead of constantly being consumed with my duties as a husband and father.<\/p>\n

With my newfound freedom, I was able to build up my masculine core and physical appearance, which had increasingly been neglected throughout the course of my marriage.<\/p>\n

By the time I had met my girlfriend, I was displaying masculinity, dominance, and value, because I had worked on myself and experienced rejection as well as success with many different women over the course of several months.<\/p>\n

Earlier this year, my responsibilities began to pile up again. I purchased a new home, I was still learning to co-parent and be a part time single dad.<\/p>\n

On top of this, I bought a fucking dog– my house started to smell like puppy shit on a consistent basis.<\/p>\n

Being worn down by my duties, I had neglected staying on top of my physical fitness, and had gained roughly twenty pounds. Some days I was simply was too busy to give a damn.<\/p>\n

In terms of my relationship, I consistently used my girlfriend as an emotional sounding board on how overwhelmed I felt with everything. Instead of working towards substantially addressing my problems, I adopted a position of victimhood, instead of being grateful for the things I had and taking responsibility for everything.<\/p>\n

Last week, over the course of several days, her texts became less frequent and were shorter. On the days we didn’t see each other, her communication tapered off. I saw from a mile away what was coming.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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